Depriving Myself.

Hope everyone is doing OK.

All my life I have struggled with putting myself first. When I think about how much I actually fail to give myself, it’s quite sad to think. I wonder how many other’s deprive themselves of the love and care as much as I do?

I am so bad at caring for me that, I am lucky to go and get myself to a hairdresser to cut my hair once a year. I wait for my clothes to literary fall off before I buy new ones.

I find it hard to spend money on myself due to feeling like there are more important things than me. Not feeling worthy enough, or like I’m wasting money. The feeling I have when I spend is not nice, I get so angry with myself.

I would rather spend money on my children or others. making others happy makes me happy. How many of you do this? Or am I the only one?

Thanks for reading!

10 Replies to “Depriving Myself.”

  1. You aren’t the only one. But you have to weigh what you said at the end, “making others happy makes me happy” Does doing these things make you so happy you dont feel like you are depriving yourself? If that’s the case, then there is no problem, if not ,then you will start to resent things. Try doing small things for you. Like I go to thrift stores to shop for me, I feel don’t feel guilty getting me something that’s not “new” but it’s new to me. And i love that I didn’t add waste to the environment. I do have a hard time getting hair cuts, but i just went shorter so I’m going to have to keep it up, and i finally love my hair. And that’s okay. It makes my loved ones happy that I’m happier with how I look. So I’m still making them happy, and as you said, I’d rather do that.
    You are worthy. You need to take care of you.
    The people who love you will be happy seeing you taking care of yourself. Remember You Are Worthy

    1. Thank you so much for your reply I appreciate your thoughts, I never thought about things this way, I do find myself shopping only clearance clothing so I don’t spend much, I didn’t think about op shop might check that out. And haircut is great idea. Thank you for your kind ❤️

  2. You definitely aren’t the only one. I do it so often that I forget how to be kind to myself. I think sometimes it’s case of me thinking so little of myself that I believe I don’t deserve anything nice at all, and that’s a difficult mindset to get back out of.
    Self care is something you can learn and practice until it doesn’t feel so difficult. It might be buying a food you like for yourself, treating yourself to a new item of clothing, having some alone time, listening to your favourite songs out loud. You have to be kinder to yourself. It takes time and effort but you can do it.
    You deserve kindness – you are as worthy of it as everyone else! ?

    1. Thank you Chloe ❤️ self care is something I struggle to except I deserve, in the end I will learn I hope ❤️ thank you for your kind words ?

  3. My husband is very similar. Last year he wanted two new books, but kept saying “I can’t justify spending the money.”
    In the end I went out and brought them, and told him his justification is that he has a hobby!
    He’s the same way with clothes, dvds, and he hasn’t brought a comic book in years (he used to be quite the collector)!
    I’ve asked him why he gets this way and he always says he doesn’t know, he just doesn’t want to waste money.
    I wish he’d treat himself every now and then, he deserves it, and so do you.

    1. Thank you Clare for sharing your husbands story with me, I know how he feels. We do deserve to treat ourselves, but doing this is so hard to do. Thank you for taking the time to read my post ?

    1. Thank you for your kind words, I will be sure to drop by, thanks for taking the time to stop by it’s much appreciated ?

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