Hope everyone is doing OK.

Forgiveness is one subject that is one I find hard to do, I know they say forgiveness is an important part of healing, but my answer is always how do you forgive someone who came into your life only to destroy all your self-worth.

Is forgiveness really that important in healing? I haven’t forgiven my rapists and never will, I’m where I am today due to what they did to me, to forgive them for taking my self-worth, my trust for people, my soul, how could I?

Then I think how many times do you need to forgive someone before enough is enough, even if they are family, we all deserve to be treated with respect, kindness and love.

Forgiveness is a hard thing for anyone to do, but for me, it’s one thing I don’t believe I would ever do. If you do then I congratulate you because you are a far better person than me.

13 Replies to “Forgiveness”

  1. Aloha Jen! Corrie Ten Boom is my inspiration for forgiveness. She speaks alot about it in her readings. It is heard to argue with a woman who forgave her tormentors. One of my favorite parts about her take on forgiveness is that we need to pretend that, when we forgive, we throw the burden into a lake. We should always remember that the lake has a no fishing sign so that we do not go and pick it back up and bring it into our minds again. I am not saying I have it down, but I am learning how wonderful it is for my heart when I let go and forgive someone. Mahalo for your post. Have a wonder-filed day!

    1. Thank you so much for your reply ? I will take a look at her readings thank you for giving me another way to look at things. I’m so happy to hear you are learning forgiveness, you are braver and stronger than I am and I commend you for that. I wish you all the best in your healing. ?

  2. I don’t think your capacity to forgive determines your worth. When we have been deeply hurt forgiveness seems to me to come at the end of the long process of feeling everything and that said not everyone achieves it. I have heard it said that we let go of the pain to free ourselves from what others tried to put into us, but I don’t know how if everyone can ever feel truly at peace with having been hurt.

    1. I understand what you mean, I commend anyone that can get to that place in their live. I just don’t think I can get to that place maybe one day i don’t hold a grudge to what happened anymore so I think I am in a better place than I was years ago. Thanks for your thoughts I appreciate it ❤️

  3. I used to pray that I could forgive my father for his abuse. After all, Jesus forgave me. However, it took decades of counseling to look at what he did and to be able to forgive him. There is also all the loving things he did towards me. I don’t know about rape. I think that would be harder to forgive. I pray that you can get over your hurt. Hang in there.

    1. I’m so happy for you that you were able to come to that point in your life to forgive ? Thank you for your kind words ?

  4. Hi Jen, I hope you are doing well. I only forgive people that ask for it. I am not a saint. I can forgive multiple times as long as I see the person is trying to change and who is really begging for forgiveness. 🙂 If I am in your shoes, I don’t think I can forgive those rapists too.

    1. Hey, I’m doing Ok thanks, Thank you for this I thought I was the only one ? it’s nice to see someone who thinks the same as you ❤️ thanks for taking the time to read my blog ?

  5. God can help us forgive and no it is not usually instantly. Sometimes we must forgive over and over until it really gets in our spirits. Only then will you have freedom from what your offenders have done. Hope this helps you. Most important is the ability to forgive ourselves. That part is the hardest, at least for me. If I do not forgive myself then I am insulting God who made me.

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